Many parents are broken heated and completely baffled by their unbelieving son or daughter. They have no clue why the child they raised well is making such awful, destructive decisions. I have never been one of these parents, but I have been one of these sons. Reflecting back on that experience, I offer these suggestions to help you reach out to your wayward child.
We all love our kids and parental love is the number one source of self esteem in kids, but loving acts can get buried in days filled with rushing around. When our kids reach adulthood, will they remember us as loving parents or just busy ones? Just to be sure, here are ten ways to love your kid today and everyday.
20 Ways to Love Your Wayward Child:
- Spend a little time each day playing entirely at your child’s direction.
- Cuddle up under a blanket and watch what he or she wants to watch on TV.
- Give a chocolate kiss along with a real one.
- Exchange butterfly kisses or nose to nose Eskimo kisses.
- Find something about your child’s appearance to compliment.
- Find something about your child’s music to compliment.
- Do one of your child’s chores for him or her.
- Run fingers through hair.
- Make your child into a burrito.
- Realize kids can be annoying. For example, when you’re discussing something important they come and ask you I want some juice and you might reply Can’t you see I am discussing something important?. This might hurt their feelings and upset them. They may even not talk to you for sometime. So you have to gently approach them with an understanding manner.
- Entertain your kids. Children will be entertained by different things. You could pick up a book or toy that they like a lot. This lets you gain their trust and understanding. You can even surprise you kids and wife by taking them to malls, a stroll in the park or some beach. However, don’t annoy them by taking them to a place they hate much.
- Pick out candy conversation hearts with appropriate messages and present them to your child.
- Talk in the car on the way to school instead of listening to the radio.
- Take pictures of facial expressions showing different emotions, and tape the one of you showing “love” over your child’s bed.
- You can help your children in their school projects, homework etc. Helping them doesn’t mean only in their schoolwork it also means helping them in their social problems such as bullies. if anyone is bullying your kid you can request your teacher regarding this matter.
- Try not argue much in front of your kids as this might affect them and cause tension. Just be happy with your kids, and try to like things that they like. Try to take them out to restaurants once in a while. Just be happy with them.
- Sometimes they might want to have privacy of their own so just give them their space trusting them. If you spy or whatsoever, it will be you’re invading on them and if they find that out they will never trust you again.
- Set aside a little time each day, maybe before bedtime, to talk about what’s going on in your child’s life, judgment free. If your child doesn’t like to talk, say Tell me three things that happened today. If it helps, tell three things that happened to you in return.
- Kids who don’t like to be hugged may be okay with sitting on your lap and being held from behind, particularly if they’re watching TV or reading.
- Play hide and seek with your child, and while you’re searching talk very loudly about how sad you will be if you can’t find him or her. Then be very happy when you’re reunited.
Advice:
- Do not spoil your kids, as this will affect how they act when they are older.
- Don’t let them be affected by social problems
- Don’t let any anyone bully them
- Try not to embarrass them in public places or in front of their friends.