Are you looking for ways to spice up your love life? Would like to add more romance or sex to your life? Or maybe your relationship is on the rocks. The good news is there are lots of things you can do to change your current status. Some of it is very easy, in fact, it involves going back to the basics, things you were probably told about life as you were growing up.
Well, listen up. It’s entirely possible to put the good lovin’ back into your partnership. All you need is the inside scoop on secrets that researchers are uncovering – real, people – tested truths about what keeps a couple’s physical connection charged. So go ahead, sneak a peek. We promise, your marriage will be glad you did.
Wear His Cologne
Yup, most women need a longer sexual warm-up than men do. But rather than wait for the ideal time, when all the kids are at sleepovers, why not get yourself in the right mind-set before you see your husband? Your trick: Dab a little of his favorite scent behind your ears and just beneath your nose before you leave for work. The scent of a man’s cologne significantly increases a woman’s arousal, say researchers at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction. “It’s not as if sniffing your husband’s cologne will magically make you passionate,” cautions Cynthia Graham, Ph.D., one of the researchers. “But it certainly helps put you in the mood.”
Go for a Bike Ride
Who knew? Bicycling can be good for your sex life. A study released by the American Heart Association found that men with a heart condition who regularly do some exercise, including cycling, are better able to perform in the bedroom, due to increased blood flow throughout the body’s arteries and vessels, including those that lead to the genitals. Women may reap the same benefits as men, so why not schedule a little cycling expedition this weekend?
Be aware, though, that there’s controversy about how bike riding can affect men. Some research shows that pressure from the seat can cause impotence, most notably among serious cyclists. “Specially designed seats may solve that problem but can create others,” says Gerald Weeks, Ph.D., professor and chair, department of counseling, University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Some experts contend, though, that the typical weekend biker isn’t really affected by the seat and that the benefits to the circulatory system outweigh possible risks.
Take Care of Your Health
For the same reason that exercise can be a bonus to your love life, any activity that decreases blood circulation is a passion killer, says Annette Owens, Ph.D., M.D., a certified sex counselor in Charlottesville, Virginia, and cofounder of the Sexual Health Network. Smoking, consuming alcohol, eating a high-fat diet and living a couch-potato existence all hamper your body’s blood flow, making it tougher for you to feel aroused. Committing to a healthier lifestyle is an essential part of stepping up your sexual heat.
Eat to Live and Love
Most of us do not realize how foods affect our moods, feelings, energy level, and behavior. When a person is “down in the dumps”, one doesn’t automatically say, “Gosh, I must not have been eating right.” On the other hand, when we’re feeling on top of the world we don’t stop to think, “I’d like to feel this good more often.” Many people do not relate how they feel to what they’ve been eating, but foods, vitamins, and minerals can make all the difference in the world between a so-so love life and the kind of love life that makes you smile every time you think about it. Many people who think they have sex problems are actually victims of poor nutrition. They don’t have sex problems. They have food problems. And food problems can be solved.
- It all takes effort to improve your love life. There is no substitute for balanced foods, and no shortcut to good health. But if you work at it, you can achieve a super love life.
- Many couples find that watching an adult film with their loved one can really enhance their love life. Some couples prefer love making guides or books to learn the proper techniques.
Enhancing your relationship with your mate, or with anyone else for that matter, begins with enhancing your relationship with yourself. Please remember that and you will begin to change the negative aspects of all of your relationships.