If you want to show your guy that you think he’s special, you could just tell him you love him. He’ll always want to hear that. And, of course, you can surprise him with the latest black berry or that Big Bertha golf club he’s been begging for. But probably the best way to make a man feel loved is to offer some simple, everyday acts of kindness that show him you understand him. These little gifts will give something back to you: a marriage infused with more trust and friendship and a deeper sense of togetherness.
There are numerous ways to convey your feelings to your beloved. Probably it could be difficult to say it directly, or sometimes girls hesitate to reveal their feelings. Indeed the girls usually presume that it’s the guy who would say it first. But it’s also true that guys like to hear this as much as the girls like. Love actually happens after you start liking someone. And in fact, you must have had spent some time with him, that’s why you’re sure about your more than liking feelings.
So, to tell you the truth, it’s easy to tell a guy you love him, especially when you know him to an extent. Moreover, telling him your feelings is an important step in building intimacy in a relationship. Just three words ‘I Love You’ can take your relationship a step ahead. Before telling him, you must be sure about your feelings and be prepared for all possible responses. Read further to know how to go about it.
Right Place, Right Time:
High yielding results come when you thoroughly think about a plan. Choose an appropriate time as well as appropriate place where you will tell him. Nothing will beat careful planning if you want to execute the proper ways on how to tell a guy you love him.
Spark up the romantic side in you by inviting him for dinner with candlelight and sweet music. Choose your attire for the evening that you know he likes.
Give him a Cushion:
Raise your hand if this sounds familiar: You and your husband screech home from work. While you hug each kid and liberate a Boboli from its plastic wrap, your husband is very busy, too…studying the mail. Seeking a way in, you ask how his day was. No answer. He’s home, but he’s not.
You’re fuming, and that’s understandable. But it turns out that men really do need a tiny buffer zone call it a cushion between work and family, says Deborah Tannen, Ph.D., professor of linguistics at Georgetown University in Washington, DC, and an expert in communication between the sexes. That cushion helps them change from “political” male with territory to defend to “loving” male with territory to share. “Many women use talk to reinforce the bond, but many men see talk as something they had to do all day to make sure they didn’t get pushed around,” says Tannen.
What’s a woman to do? Tell him you understand his need to retreat but you just can’t indulge it every night. Then discuss how and how often the two of you can build in a cushion without leaving the whole domestic load on you. For example, you might agree that one night he’s with you and the kids, the next he gets to pull his turtle act for 10 or 15 minutes. The upside when he puts the mail or newspaper first? He’ll feel more energized and ready to give you the break you’ll need once he comes out of his shell.
Give Him Guy Time:
You are your husband’s best friend, as he’s likely to profess after a couple of beers. But sometimes he wants to go out with someone who won’t roll her eyes when he turns into a human whoopee cushion. That “someone” is, the Guys. “Men get energy from being away, they hang loose, talk or not talk. It gives them great intimacy without tremendous demands.
That said, we’re not suggesting that he get a free pass every night while you deal with baths and bedtime. If you have two children under 3, for example, one evening out a month is generous. This is about meeting his needs within the realistic demands of family and work not about your being a martyr. (While you’re at it, remember to pencil in girls’ nights out.)
If you each use some of this free time to pursue your separate passions — whether it’s dragging a friend to see the jam band Phish or taking Brazilian dance lessons with a pal there’s likely to be an extra spark when you get back together. Maintaining separate identities keeps alive those parts of you that you two fell in love with in the first place.
Give him Your Admiration:
A lot has changed over the last 40 years, but one thing remains the same: Your guy’s self-esteem is tied up in how well he handles the job of being a real man his performance at work, in bed, as a dad. Stay mum about these subjects and it won’t matter if he’s a superstud with a six-figure salary. He’ll…wonder.
Men are still trying to get their mothers’ approval, and you represent that feminine approval,” says psychologist Gratch. So give freely, and give often, making sure you keep your praise genuine and, well, masculine. (Sad to say, complimenting him on his sensitivity will please him because it pleases you, but it won’t massage him in those little-boy spots that most need the rub.) And remember to focus the compliment on him. If he gets a promotion, for example, instead of saying, “Great, we can use the extra money,” try, “Wow, they finally see how hard you’ve been working.
Give Him His Dreams:
If he tells you that someday not tomorrow, not next month he’d really like to hike the Appalachian Trail, try biting your tongue before you say, “Uh-huh. And who’s going to take care of the kids while you’re gone?” We all need dreams. With days that are packed with demanding jobs, exuberant children and circles of friends and family, life at this stage of the game is rich and rewarding. But it also leaves little room for real adventure. Dreams connect us to a past that felt limitless and promise a future that’s a bit freer.